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Addiction & Betrayal Trauma Resources

It is critical to have support during the struggles of addiction. There are support groups in your community such as AA, NA, and SLAA. It is important to know that you cannot do it alone. Addiction is a symptom of something greater: emotional and relational trauma. Trauma cannot be healed in isolation.

For women who have gone through betrayal trauma, it is critical to know that you are not alone.  Support is essential. 

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Sex & Porn Addiction

Books:

Sex Addiction: 

Out of the Shadows

Patrick Carnes

Podcasts:

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Betrayal Trauma

Books:

From Betrayal Trauma to Healing & Joy: A Workbook for Partners of Sex Addicts by

Marsha Means

Partner Betrayal Trauma: Book

by Douglas Weiss, Ph.D.

Podcasts:

Betrayal trauma refers to the emotional distress and psychological impact experienced when someone we trust violates that trust in a significant way. It commonly occurs in situations where there's a breach of trust, such as infidelity, deception, abuse, or a significant breach of boundaries within a close relationship.

Key aspects of betrayal trauma include:

1. **Violation of Trust:** It involves a breach of trust by someone close, causing significant emotional pain. This betrayal can be a one-time event or a series of actions that erode trust gradually.

2. **Emotional Impact:** Betrayal trauma often results in intense emotional distress, including feelings of shock, disbelief, anger, hurt, and a profound sense of loss. It can lead to symptoms similar to those of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

3. **Impact on Relationships:** The trauma can have a profound impact on the individual's ability to trust others in the future. It might affect their relationships, making it challenging to form or maintain trust in new relationships.

4. **Physical and Emotional Responses:** Betrayal trauma can manifest in both physical and emotional symptoms, such as anxiety, depression, sleep disturbances, hypervigilance, and intrusive thoughts.

5. **Recovery and Healing:** Recovery from betrayal trauma often involves therapy, support groups, or counseling to address the emotional pain, rebuild trust (either in the same relationship or in future relationships), and work through the trauma.

It's crucial to seek support and professional help when dealing with betrayal trauma, as it can have a profound and lasting impact on an individual's mental and emotional well-being. Therapy can assist in processing emotions, rebuilding trust, and finding healthy ways to navigate the aftermath of betrayal.

Intimacy Anorexia

Books:

Intimacy Anorexia: The Book 

by Douglas Weiss, Ph.D. (Author)

Intimacy anorexia is a concept used in relationship counseling and therapy to describe a pattern of withholding emotional, spiritual, or sexual intimacy from a partner. It's characterized by a persistent avoidance or rejection of closeness, connection, and emotional engagement within a relationship.

Key traits of intimacy anorexia may include:

1. **Emotional Avoidance:** The individual may withdraw emotionally, making it challenging for their partner to connect with them on a deep level. They might seem distant, uncommunicative, or avoid sharing thoughts and feelings.

2. **Withholding Affection or Attention:** Intimacy anorexics might withhold praise, affection, or attention from their partner, creating a sense of emotional starvation in the relationship.

3. **Sexual Rejection:** There might be a consistent rejection of sexual intimacy or a lack of interest in physical closeness, leading to feelings of rejection and frustration in the partner.

4. **Control Issues:** The individual with intimacy anorexia might exhibit controlling behaviors within the relationship, either consciously or unconsciously, which can create further distance and barriers to connection.

5. **Blaming or Criticizing:** They might consistently blame their partner or criticize them, creating an environment of emotional disconnection and resentment.

It's essential to note that intimacy anorexia is a relational dynamic rather than a clinical diagnosis. It's often observed in couples' therapy where one partner feels starved of emotional connection despite being in a relationship. Therapy, open communication, and a willingness to address underlying issues are typically recommended to navigate and heal from intimacy anorexia in a relationship.

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